Advance Directives: 5 Essential Things You Need to Know

Marie’s son was distraught. He had told his Mother he would have the doctors do everything they could – but now they were saying that they didn’t know how long she would be able to breathe on her own without the tube, nor did they know how long she might last if the machine continued to do most of the breathing for her.

Marie looked so sad as she lay in the hospital bed, a breathing tube in her mouth, oxygen mask on, and wired up to all different kinds of machines.  Her son at her side, he could see she didn’t want all these wires around her. She was very weak, suffering from a terminal illness, and only able (sometimes) to nod her head slowly or shake it gently from side to side to make her wishes known.

The doctor tried to find out what she would want – to have the breathing tube kept in place or to have it taken out.

Her son knew he had to make a decision for his Mum, but found it hard without being able to hear her opinion. Eventually, he was able to see a faint nod of her head when she responded to the doctor’s clear question ‘Do you want me to take the breathing tube out, no matter what happens?’.

This family were lucky – their mother was still able (just) to communicate her wishes.   But so much of this could have been different and more dignified if she had had an Advance Directive in place.

(The doctor did respond to Marie’s wishes and took the breathing tube out. She passed away peacefully the next afternoon, with her family by her bedside).

What is an Advance Directive?

Called slightly different names in different countries, an Advance Directive (aka Living Will,  or Advance Healthcare Decision)  allows you to state in advance what kind of treatment or non-treatment you would like to receive towards the end of your life.

It is a record of a decision you have made yourself, to be used later if you lose your mental capacity. Hopefully, of course, it will never have to be used. It may or may not be a legal document in your country or state.

Without one, your power of attorney (if you have one) may not know what you would like to happen, should they need to make decisions on your behalf.  But there’s a few other things that are necessary to think about before you can make your Advance Directive.

Here’s 5 points you need to know before you make your Advance Directive

  1. What are the values you hold dear in life? If you don’t know what these are, it will be much more difficult to make decisions relating to the end of your life. For instance, Debbie knows that God will take care of her no matter what, and it is not her job to interfere in anything the Doctors say, as they know best. It’s important she communicates this, both to her family and her doctors.
  2. It helps your family if they know they are carrying out your wishes. Even if it is hard for them to come to terms with what you have said you want, it brings some comfort to know they are able to take care of you in this way – even if that means allowing you to die. The Advance Directive will tell family, friends, doctors and nurses under what conditions you would want to be kept alive or not.
  3. Time and money can be saved. If you have the courage to face up to the fact that one day your life will come to an end, and act on this, not only will you benefit, but others will too. It has been shown that those who prepare Advance Directives are likely to use less medical resources, saving everyone time and your family or the government money.
  4. It will prove invaluable to your Welfare Power of Attorney, who may need to act on your behalf if you are incapacitated for whatever reasons and cannot do so. It helps them to know what you would have wanted if you could have said so yourself.
  5. It gives you some sense of control. No-one really knows how their life will end, of course, but for most people it is not suddenly. That means you are likely to have a period of time where your Advance Directive instructions could be very useful.

It seems a sensible idea to do this, and yet most people don’t do it – many don’t even know what an Advance Directive or Living Will is.

I know how important this is because my husband had answered a few questions I had asked him, well before he was on his deathbed. (You can read about these in my book Gifted By Grief ). However, at that time, I didn’t know about Living Wills or Advance Directives, and we did not cover every situation. I believe the ending of his life could have been easier had we done this together.

But now you do know about this, and so I suggest you take an action now that moves you towards completing an AD for yourself, and help to avoid Marie’s situation.

Listen/watch my ‘Get Your Advance Directive Done” Masterclass – here’s what just one person said about it:

“It is really helpful to hear about the experiences of other people, not just for myself but because when I talk to others about it, they start asking me questions which I can’t always answer.  The more we continue to share experiences the better.  Thank you for a very useful and informative class”.

Check it out here: http://beforeigosolutions.com/what-we-offer/big-masterclass/advance-directive-masterclass/

 

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2 Responses to Advance Directives: 5 Essential Things You Need to Know

  1. Jeremy Woodward April 30, 2017 at 10:54 am #

    Yes, the Advance Directive does start the conversation about what one wants done at the end of life. However, as the leader and articles in this week’s Economist (29/4/17) suggest, what one thinks one wants at, say, 65 when healthly and still statistically with many years ahead of you may be very different from what one feels at 85 with a terminal illness diagnosis.

    Your notes assume that the Advance Directive comes after a “Health Power of Attorney”. Is this a Scottish document? With knowledge only of England & Wales LPAs, if a Health & Welfare LPA has been put in place, then the attitude to life sustaining treatment has already been dealt with and care needs to be taken that these two documents do not conflict.

    A Health and Welfare LPA also will happen after a conversation with the donees (they have to countersign it) who, when it is needed, may be more informed of the current feelings of the donor (which then may confilct with the choice about life sustaining treatment made when the LPA was set up?!). And if the donees are not still alive, then the Advance Directive could be still there and so come into its own. All very complicated without being able to see into the future.

    While both documents deal with the donor’s attitude to life sustaining treatment, will the LPA generally allow more flexibility for future attitudes of both the donor and donee(s) to this and the surrounding circumstances at the time one or other document is needed?

    • Jane Duncan Rogers May 1, 2017 at 9:12 pm #

      Hi Jeremy, yes this is based on Scotland. In England and Wales it is different, you’re right. And yes, our attitudes to change as we get older. But we never know when death is going to come knocking, and I encourage people to make Advance Directives now based on how they feel now, acknowledging that this may change in the future. And it can of course be changed. In fact, keeping these documents up to date is very important. On balance, I would still say that having an LPA and/or Advance Directive (in Scotland it is only binding in common law) is more important than not having one. But it is everyones own choice, of course. Thanks for your comment, very useful.

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