A very different kind of new year’s resolution: I want to let you into a secret (every year it used to be the same for me) – I would set a resolution (or several), think “this time it will be different,” and I would start well.
Slowly, though, the excuses would creep in, and before I knew it, whatever ‘good’ behaviour I was doing would have stopped.In that moment, I would then question the point of having a resolution at all, and so began the potentially slippery slope of feeling bad.
Traditionally this happens to most with joining a gym, an obvious antidote to overeating during the holiday season, and you may easily recognise yourself in this respect.
Since my husband Philip died 6 years ago, and I realised life is way too short to waste on feeling bad about doing/not doing New Year Resolutions,
I have been doing something quite different – what has become known as my New Year Inquiry.
Notice it’s no longer a resolution and that immediately takes the pressure off performing. Yay!
Rather, it is an opportunity to reflect on what I am letting go of in the year just gone by, what has been learnt from that, and then a stepping forward into my hopes for the forthcoming year.
By operating in the spirit of an inquiry, which is gentler and much more curious than a resolution, there is a feeling of spaciousness. This is then affirmed by the creation of the motto at the end.
I’d love you to explore this and see if it works for you. Here’s the 8 pointers, or you can click on the graphic and print it out:
8 Pointers to a Very Different Kind of New Year Resolution
1. Five things achieved last year
2. Three regrets last year
3. Three things learnt last year
4. Five things I want to achieve or attend to next year
5. What might get in the way of these happening?
6. What could help me achieve or attend to them?
7. Three things I’ll treat myself to
8. Create and write a motto for the New Year, and display it
What might your motto be? Or one of the things you’ll treat yourself to? Share in the comments 🙂
And if one of your intentions is to take care of your end of life in a organised manner, and leave your family with nothing but gratitude for your preparations, visit here for a copy of the Before I Go Workbook – Practical Questions to Ask and Answer Before You Go, plus a short video of me showing you what’s in it 🙂