Statistics show that 100% of us are going to die.
So what on earth are we doing denying this?
Ignoring the elephant in the room?
Pretending, even in the face of one of our loved ones dying, that it is not happening?
These are the actions of people who are going to be in trouble, sooner or later, because we are all going to be affected by death, if not already.
I believe passionately that society needs to be more open about grief, death and dying. This quote from my first book, Gifted By Grief sums it up.
To be sticking our heads in the sand and finding these topics difficult to mention is complete madness, given we are all going to be affected by them sooner or later. It’s my intention to open up conversations about these topics and bring them out of the closet.
This is a desire that arose out of my husband Philip's death in 2011, when it became obvious that he would have had a very different experience had he not been so afraid of dying.
It's a bit ironic now that it is due to his death that I have found my passion. Fortunately, I can laugh at that!
I've worked for over twenty five years in the personal growth industry as a counselor, psychotherapist and group leader, and owned Oxfordshire’s largest complementary health clinic for 3 years. I am an author, coach and speaker, and have helped thousands of people around the world to transform their lives and business.
In 2017 I founded Before I Go Solutions, a social enterprise (not-for-profit) dedicated to having end of life plans become as commonplace as birthplans, and to encourage people to be more at ease talking about dying, death and grief.
I particularly am interested in working with carers and the cared-for (having known something of this when I was caring for Philip).
I originally trained personally in 1990 with Louise L Hay, founder of Hay House publishers and author of the famous book, You Can Heal Your Life ®, and became the first person to lead You Can Heal Your Life® study groups in the UK and Europe, which I did for about ten years.
Gifted By Grief was published in 2015 and is still selling strongly, and Before I Go: The Essential Guide to Creating a Good End of Life Plan came out in late 2018, and is the basis for all our programmes.
I am associated with the world-renowned Findhorn Foundation Community; spiritual community, eco-village and learning centre in the Highlands of Scotland, and live nearby.
Being part of a community that cares about the environment, our earth, and each other is a daily blessing for me.
The essence that is life itself also flows through Before I Go Solutions, and often the business or spiritual challenges that face me are solved with my early morning walking in the woods behind my house, or my meditation afterwards.
Not to mention singing, a spot of dancing and general enjoyment of everything!
(In fact, after Philip died I swore to myself that I would filter everything I did through the question 'Am I enjoying myself?' and stop doing it if I wasn't.
I still do that, because now I know that death can come visiting at any time, and the thought of that happening when I'm not in a place of enjoyment is pretty bleak).
So I bring joy, love, and a light touch to everything I do. I hope you'll enjoy this journey with me!