“Prince died without leaving a will” I read the headline online and couldn’t believe it. Surely someone with that amount of assets and complex life affairs would have taken care of this. But it appears to be true, as no will has been found yet . His sister Tyka Nelson had to go to…
One Simple Step to Integrating Loss, Endings, or Death into Your Life Right Now
Life, it could be argued, is loss made manifest. From the moment a child is born, there are moments of loss – loss of who they were as a baby, a toddler, a young teenager. It continues into older age, with loss of interest in what fascinated us when younger, loss of energy for some,…
How A Pilates Class, Death, and Procrastination Lead to Relief and Release
“I want to get it done, I just don’t seem to get round to it.” So said a client who told me that her will, which needed updating, had been sitting in her inbox for four years. Four years! And during all that period, every time she looked at it, she felt…
5 Things to Do Right Now That Will Save Your Family Headache and Heartache After You Die
Save your family and loved ones heartache after you die? Well, you can’t really, can you? They’re just going to be grieving over the fact that you have gone. But you can actually lessen that heartache – and certainly lessen the headache that is likely if they discover that you haven’t sorted out any…
Before I Go: Facebook Group
I’ve just set up a new Facebook group, if you are interested in exploring the topic of end of life, death, dying, afterlife – anything associated with coming to the end of a life and what that means for you. We’ll be exploring what a body is; what’s the meaning of being alive in a…
Planning for the Death of a Loved One
I’m delighted to say that Saga online magazine have published my article Planning for the Death of a Loved One today; you can view it here: http://www.saga.co.uk/magazine/relationships/bereavement/planning-for-the-death-of-a-loved-one
Why An Assumption Is Your Biggest TripUp
“The greatest difficulty is the mental resistance to things that arise, and the underlying assumption that they should not.” Eckhart Tolle Reading this quote right now, I understand why an assumption I had made was my biggest trip up. Basically, I had had such a difficult time accepting the fact my husband had died. Even…
The Mourner’s Bill of Rights
If you have lost someone, this list will really help you. The Mourner’s Bill of Rights by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Though you should reach out to others as you do the work of mourning, you should not feel obligated to accept the unhelpful responses you may receive from some people. You are the one…
How Does One Prepare for Death?
I’m part of a discussion with The Death Chicks on this subject, as one of their interviews in the Big Questions series, along with Suzette Sherman who runs www.sevenponds.com, a resource site for those in the USA wanting to know more about preparing for death. We had fun! Watch it here:
Why What You Say to Someone Who Is Grieving Is So Crucial
“Everyone’s grieving is unique, and only luck helps us strike the right note in talking with the bereaved. ” So said Mariella Frostrup in last week’s Observer magazine. Yes, grief is definitely unique in it’s expression through each person. But do we really depend on luck if we are talking with those who have been…