Making Time for Dying

By Jane Duncan Rogers / July 19, 2017 /

This last two weeks has been a bit challenging with my stepdaughter dying – those of you in my Facebook group will have heard this, and that’s also why I didn’t send an email this week. You can join here if you want to: https://www.facebook.com/groups/beforeIgo/ In fact, I am going to be taking a break for…

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Afraid Of Your Spouse Dying First? Open this…

By Jane Duncan Rogers / June 28, 2017 /

The idea of my husband, best friend, lover, business partner and companion leaving me behind was unbearable. It was my greatest fear. Having had no children, the thought of him dying first and me being left alone in the world was something I simply couldn’t bear. So I didn’t think about it – or when…

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5 Questions to Ask When Someone Is Actually Dying

By Jane Duncan Rogers / June 21, 2017 /

Have you noticed we often use euphemisms about death?  In my last blog on this, just recently I was advocating ‘telling it like it is’, and using words such as death, dying, die. But the fact is, when you come to meet someone whom you know probably has only weeks to live, is it really…

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Celebrating in the Dark

By Jane Duncan Rogers / June 8, 2017 /

In a world of opposites, there is both darkness and light. Hard to believe sometimes, when you’re seemingly locked in a room without being able to see the light switch. But it is possible to find it – to find light in the dark. And not only that, but to come to a place where…

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A Good Goodbye

By Jane Duncan Rogers / May 2, 2017 /

Gail Rubin runs a wonderful website and business called A Good Goodbye based in California, the name of which tells you a lot about what she focuses on, which is one of the reasons I wanted to interview her. In our interview we spoke about ‘matchings, hatchings and dispatchings’ – a succinct sentence to describe life,…

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Advance Directives: 5 Essential Things You Need to Know

By Jane Duncan Rogers / April 26, 2017 /

Marie’s son was distraught. He had told his Mother he would have the doctors do everything they could – but now they were saying that they didn’t know how long she would be able to breathe on her own without the tube, nor did they know how long she might last if the machine continued…

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7 Practical Ways to Set Yourself Up For a Good Death

By Jane Duncan Rogers / March 29, 2017 /

I never thought about death much, other than as a concept, until my husband was diagnosed with cancer in 2010. Then it made its entrance with a bang. Even though he was 65, it felt far too young to be contemplating death. We learnt a lot about each other, about life, and about death in…

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What It’s Really Like When Someone Dies: One Woman’s Story

By Jane Duncan Rogers / September 20, 2016 /

Thank God he’d stopped that awful rattling sound. Now his breaths were even, but with increasingly longer gaps in between. I knew this could go on for some time, but I was pretty surprised when ten minutes later, the gap just went on – and on, and on and on. And that moment – of…

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What Sort of Impact Do You Create in The World?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / June 22, 2016 /

Muhammad Ali made a huge impact in the world throughout his life in many ways, not just his boxing. But he also made an impact in his death too – he had stated beforehand just how he wanted his funeral to be. Not only did this mean his executor and family only had to carry…

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Death, Grief and Paris Attacks

By Jane Duncan Rogers / November 15, 2015 /

When something like the Paris attacks happen, the words ‘gift’ and ‘grief’ absolutely do not sit well together. They are not meant to. How on earth can there be a gift when someone dies? It’s not possible. In the moment, there is only shock (even if you have been prepared for the death), horror, tears, sadness,…

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