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Feelings/Emotions

Overwhelming feelings at Xmas

By Jane Duncan Rogers / December 13, 2018 / 4 Comments

Thinking ahead to Christmas Day, or whichever day you celebrate in your faith, overwhelming feelings can easily arise  when you think of the empty chair at the meal table; or no need to buy a present any more; or no present to look forward to receiving. Your heart is a mixture of emotions – on…

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When Your Parents Die, What Happens?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / November 14, 2018 / 13 Comments

Someone said to me recently that when your parents die, if they are old, have led a good life, and are ready to go, then you don’t grieve so much. I have recently discovered both the truth and untruth of this, when my Dad died on 25th September, and then my Mum died just a…

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When Your Partner Is Dying, What Do You Say?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / October 16, 2018 / 0 Comments

Here’s an extract from an article I’ve just had published in NextAvenue.org.  It contains many helpful suggestions for how to start and maintain a conversation when someone you love is dying, as well as tips on how to prepare well for the end, when it comes. You really are alive right up until the moment…

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9 Ways to Create a Memorial of Your Loved Ones

By Jane Duncan Rogers / July 4, 2018 / 0 Comments

  Walking in a beautiful memorial park in Coventry, England, dedicated to the huge numbers of men killed in both World Wars, I felt the peace in the air. All around me on this sunny day, families were out picnicking, playing and enjoying themselves and yet there was still a sense of peace. What a…

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What If You Knew You’d Be the Last To…?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / June 25, 2018 / 0 Comments

What if you knew you’d be the last to touch someone?       If you were taking tickets, for example, at the theatre, tearing them, giving back the ragged stubs, you might take care to touch that palm, brush your fingertips along the life line’s crease. When a man pulls his wheeled suitcase too…

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3 Things to Do When You’re Afraid Of Your Spouse Dying First

By Jane Duncan Rogers / April 11, 2018 / 16 Comments

It was my greatest fear. Having had no children, the thought of my husband dying first and me being left alone in the world was something I simply couldn’t bear. Even if I had had children, the idea of my best friend, lover, business partner and companion leaving me behind was unbearable. So I didn’t…

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Top Regrets of the Dying – How To Avoid This One

By Jane Duncan Rogers / March 29, 2018 / 0 Comments

One of the top 5 regrets of the dying is ‘I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings’. Given that we never know when our life is going to come to an end, it’s a really good idea to not only express our feelings, but by doing that, keep our relationships up to…

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7 Tips For A Good Valentine’s Day When You Are On Your Own

By Jane Duncan Rogers / February 12, 2018 / 5 Comments

7 Tips For A Good Valentine’s Day When You Are On Your Own The thought of never again receiving a Valentine’s card from my husband almost made me drop to the floor in agony.  All those other women out there would be receiving a card, flowers or being taken out for a meal, and in…

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The Cosmic Elbow Strikes Again!

By Jane Duncan Rogers / January 24, 2018 / 0 Comments

Ever heard of the cosmic elbow? My husband used to talk about this a lot. Life tends to give us little nudges, and if we don’t pay attention, it often gives us bigger ones. First of all, it usually is a prod, just enough to make us pay attention to something. Then if we don’t…

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Celebrating Today

By Jane Duncan Rogers / September 14, 2017 / 18 Comments

It’s my birthday today!  What’s more, I have moved very definitely out of the realm of middle age, as I am now 60. Gulp. I know that age doesn’t mean anything, I know that you are as young as you feel (true!) and I love Wayne Dyer’s words ‘If you didn’t know how old you…

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