how to talk about death and dying

How to talk about death and dying

By Jane Duncan Rogers / May 4, 2022 /

Talking about death and dying can be met with horror especially if the conversation seems out of the blue. A colleague Juli told me she had told her daughter what she wanted for some of her funeral service, and was taken aback when her daughter rounded on her and told her to stop talking, it…

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How death affects a child

How does death affect a child

By Jane Duncan Rogers / March 9, 2022 /

Assumptions are easy to make when we think of how death affects a child, as I learned after my late husband died and then we had another tragedy in the family. A child’s perception of death Just 3 months after his death, his grand-daughter, aged just 16, also died of cancer. As you can imagine,…

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How to get my family to let me go

By Jane Duncan Rogers / September 17, 2021 /

When you know you’re dying but your family can’t accept the fact. This article shares 3 tips how to get your family to let you go.

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3 tips on how to talk with someone who is dying

By Jane Duncan Rogers / July 11, 2018 /

Sylvia was becoming more and more frail. It was clear that, though in good spirits, her body was nearing the end of her life. She kept having visits to hospital, and had recently had a fall which had precipitated one of these. But how on earth do we talk with someone who is dying? If…

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Why What You Say to Someone Who Is Grieving Is So Crucial

By Jane Duncan Rogers / January 28, 2016 /

“Everyone’s grieving is unique, and only luck helps us strike the right note in talking with the bereaved. ” So said Mariella Frostrup in last week’s Observer magazine. Yes, grief is definitely unique in it’s expression through each person. But do we really depend on luck if we are talking with those who have been…

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Could grief REALLY be hiding a gift for you?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / September 17, 2015 /

Grief hiding a gift?  I do not think so! Queuing in the fish and chip shop in the high street of the small Scottish town where I live, I scowled at a man ahead of me in the queue. He was overweight, fiddling with his cigarette packet, and aged about mid-50s. What was wrong with…

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Has Someone You Know Been Diagnosed with Cancer?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / February 19, 2015 /

When you hear the word ‘cancer’ associated with someone close to you, it’s hard. The shock, even if you suspected it, can cause you to be clumsy with your communication. Disbelief is likely to stun you into silence. You may very well feel helpless. So what do you say?  How can you best help them? …

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