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3 tips on how to talk with someone who is dying

By Jane Duncan Rogers / July 11, 2018 / 4 Comments

Sylvia was becoming more and more frail. It was clear that, though in good spirits, her body was nearing the end of her life. She kept having visits to hospital, and had recently had a fall which had precipitated one of these. But how on earth do we talk with someone who is dying? If…

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How To Die Peacefully – an Interview with Dr Wendy Nickerson

By Jane Duncan Rogers / January 25, 2017 / 2 Comments

The words ‘how to die peacefully’ really struck me. That’s what everybody wants, isn’t it? Every month this year I am going to be interviewing a specialist in the field of dying, death and grief for my new series The B.I.G. Interviews Series, hosted on my You Tube Channel.   First up was Dr Wendy…

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BBC Radio 4 Womans Hour: short interview

By Jane Duncan Rogers / June 6, 2016 / 0 Comments

Listen in to me being interviewed alongside two other widows about what happens after you lose a partner. Just ten minutes long, it starts at about 18.08 minutes in. http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b07djtwn#play

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Why What You Say to Someone Who Is Grieving Is So Crucial

By Jane Duncan Rogers / January 28, 2016 / 0 Comments

“Everyone’s grieving is unique, and only luck helps us strike the right note in talking with the bereaved. ” So said Mariella Frostrup in last week’s Observer magazine. Yes, grief is definitely unique in it’s expression through each person. But do we really depend on luck if we are talking with those who have been…

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Could grief REALLY be hiding a gift for you?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / September 17, 2015 / 0 Comments

Queuing in the fish and chip shop in the high street of the small Scottish town where I live, I scowled at a man ahead of me in the queue. He was overweight, fiddling with his cigarette packet, and aged about mid-50s. What was wrong with that? Everything! How dare HE be alive, he who…

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Has Someone You Know Been Diagnosed with Cancer?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / February 19, 2015 / 0 Comments

When you hear the word ‘cancer’ associated with someone close to you, it’s hard. The shock, even if you suspected it, can cause you to be clumsy with your communication. Disbelief is likely to stun you into silence. You may very well feel helpless. So what do you say?  How can you best help them? …

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Why the commonest things said to you about grief are actually the worst.

By Jane Duncan Rogers / February 4, 2015 / 0 Comments

What is it that everyone says to you? You’ll never get over it It’ll just take time These two things were said to me, and I’ve discovered, said to others too. They’re not helpful though, because they’re not true. Here’s why: ‘You’ll never get over it’ – death of a loved one is not something you…

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