Death, Grief and Paris Attacks

By Jane Duncan Rogers / November 15, 2015 /

When something like the Paris attacks happen, the words ‘gift’ and ‘grief’ absolutely do not sit well together. They are not meant to. How on earth can there be a gift when someone dies? It’s not possible. In the moment, there is only shock (even if you have been prepared for the death), horror, tears, sadness,…

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Trusting, Waiting, and then Taking a Step Forward

By Jane Duncan Rogers / November 4, 2015 /

We can relatively easily see that loss might hold a gift for others. But when it happens to us, in the face of unspeakable sorrow, pain or grief, it’s not so easy to see any gifts at all. In fact the idea just goes out the window as you feel like railing against life, are…

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3 Tips on How to Cope With Grief

By Jane Duncan Rogers / October 14, 2015 /

No 1: Open Your Doors to All Feelings Imagine you are a house. Grief (in the form of fear, anger, guilt, sorrow, sadness, despair, you name it) comes knocking at the front door. The instinct is to lock the door and block up the windows to keep it out. But the feelings are so overwhelming…

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Can Acceptance Really Bring Freedom?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / September 22, 2015 /

  Rant, rage, stomp, fume, blame, criticise, complain, moan. So often this is what we do instead of accepting how things are. It’s as if that very action of accepting will condone the situation, or let someone ‘get off scot free’, or because we don’t know what else to do. Our society doesn’t help –…

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Could grief REALLY be hiding a gift for you?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / September 17, 2015 /

Grief hiding a gift?  I do not think so! Queuing in the fish and chip shop in the high street of the small Scottish town where I live, I scowled at a man ahead of me in the queue. He was overweight, fiddling with his cigarette packet, and aged about mid-50s. What was wrong with…

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Death Has Taught Me To Treat Life Like A Gift

By Jane Duncan Rogers / September 12, 2015 /

Great article published in the Daily Record magazine today, 12th September, 2015: You can read it here: http://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/real-life/cancer-widow-hopes-book-experiences-6425582

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When You're Hurting Inside

What To Do When You’re Hurting Inside…

By Jane Duncan Rogers / August 5, 2015 /

If you’ve been wounded physically, there are certain things that need to happen to ensure the healthy healing of that wound. We know now that cleanliness in all areas around the wound are crucial to support the body in its brilliant ability to self-heal. So the person tending you needs to have scrubbed their hands.…

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Grief never ends…?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / June 7, 2015 /

Grief never ends is a very common belief, but it’s not true. Grief changes, because when you grieve a loss you are on a journey, whether you like it or not. A journey is about travelling, learning, growing; making mistakes, discovering and exploring. During this you will be changing; you can’t help it. So ditch the…

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Grief Ambushes – What To Do?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / February 19, 2015 /

The tears gushed out suddenly when I passed the cream cheese in the supermarket aisle. It was so poignant, seeing this cheese, which I no longer needed to buy, and yet which had been one of the few foods that Philip could eat in his last months.

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Has Someone You Know Been Diagnosed with Cancer?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / February 19, 2015 /

When you hear the word ‘cancer’ associated with someone close to you, it’s hard. The shock, even if you suspected it, can cause you to be clumsy with your communication. Disbelief is likely to stun you into silence. You may very well feel helpless. So what do you say?  How can you best help them? …

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