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What happens after I die?

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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What happens after death is one of those perennial questions! Jane shares her thoughts on some of the different aspects you might want to consider.

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What does a white feather mean?

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Discover how the lightness of a feather (or three) helped Jane move through the gravity of grief.

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What is a burial shroud?

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This article discusses everything you need to know about what is a burial shroud, the alternative to a coffin. What a burial shroud looks like and if they’re legal or not.  “Would you rather your body was wrapped in a shroud, or placed in a coffin?” I asked this…

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How do I start on sorting out my stuff?

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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Sorting out your stuff can sometimes feel so overwhelming that it’s really hard to get going. Here are my top 3 tips to help you make a start.

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Is there life after loss?

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When you’re bereaved, it’s easy to think there will never be any quality of life after loss. It’s such a hard time, but this story gives hope, inspiration and a sense of possibility, especially for those in the older stage of life.

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What’s the difference between end of life plan facilitators and end of life doulas? 

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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End of life as a phrase has become much more common in the last few years, initially attached to the word ‘doulas’, and now there are end of life plan facilitators, or consultants, and even coaches. So what’s the actual difference?   An end of life doula is someone who…

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Interview with Silver Tent TV

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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In this intimate interview Siobhan A Riordan of Silver Tent TV talks with Jane Duncan Rogers about the lessons she learnt accompanying her husband to end of life.

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How do I organise my old photos?

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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How do I organise my old photos is something many have asked me about. It’s a great question, and very relevant for many of us of a certain age! And indeed if you are asking this question you are likely to have boxes/albums/files full of black and white photos, many…

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How do I create a legacy book?

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There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots; the other, wings. Here’s how you can leave tangible memories for your children and grandchildren.

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In conversation with Dr Kathryn Mannix

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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Watch or read a conversation about what dying is really like, and how best to plan for a good death, with Jane and Dr Kathryn Mannix, palliative care doctor and author of ‘With the End in Mind’

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Ariane Burgess MSP & Jane Duncan Rogers: Chats About Life

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Jane joins Ariane Burgess to discuss how planning for death can be included in living a more sustainable life.

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Will Coronavirus Change Our Conversations About Death?

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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A useful conversation set up by Compassion in Dying (UK), with several presenters, including a breast surgeon (who also has breast cancer); an intensive care anaesthetist; and a palliative care doctor.

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Do we really need to be frightened by death to fully appreciate life?

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We’ve become so far removed from death that when the effect of the pandemic began to hit hard, we were stunned and shocked. How dare this happen, to us, who are so used to being in charge of life?

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How to plan for the end of life – Dying Matters Week UK

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During Dying Matters week, I was delighted to be asked to post about just how you really DO plan – here are some pointers to get you going on your plan for the end of life.  Even more essential now in these days of the pandemic.

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Coping with the personal impact of multiple deaths and losses: for care home workers

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Jane talks about cumulative grief – and how to cope with the losses which are happening in care homes, and all over the world as a result of COVID-19.

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Heroic Journeys: from crisis to transformation – with Michael Banks

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Dying to Talk – why the coronavirus is a great opportunity for a neglected conversation. Jane joins this podcast to offer practical advice.

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Funerals and body disposal in the time of coronavirus

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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In my book, Before I Go: The Essential Guide to Creating A Good End of Life Plan, I introduced the idea of the separation of the disposal of the body from the ritual involved in what has traditionally been called a funeral, and which is what we are familiar with.…

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Coronavirus: stay home or go to hospital?

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If I have coronavirus, is it better to stay at home or go to hospital? Dr Kathryn Mannix answers the question. #havetheconversation

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Coronavirus and being out of control – but here’s what you CAN control

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Suddenly the possibility of death from COVID-19 has come closer much more swiftly than we might have anticipated. However, although we may not have any control over when, where or how the coronavirus will be in our area, we DO have control over how we meet it.  We CAN manage…

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Coronavirus, life, death and fear: 3 pointers when feeling out of control

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3 ways to calm fear thoughts when worries about coronavirus threaten to take over

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Moray Business Women’s Showcase Event

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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A 5 minute slot at local Moray Business Women’s Showcase evening, 10th March 2020 – not a lot of time!

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Is funeral insurance really worth it?

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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Marisa, a client, contacted me with an urgent tone in her voice. “Should I get funeral insurance? I really want to sort my funeral out, but this is a big stumbling block for me. I just can’t decide, and it’s keeping me awake at night.” Aged 68, Marisa was aware…

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3 Tips on How to Talk to Children About Dying and Death

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Many people have misgivings when it comes to talking with children about death. Find out what to do about it if it’s something you worry about.

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The most unusual Valentine’s Day present ever!

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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Everyone has an opinion about  Valentine’s Day, but most of us love a gift, no matter what. Find out about a special offer on a gift that will really surprise your loved ones – as well as make their life easier!

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Decluttering

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Inspired by the BIG Method, Michael Williams (a BIG Solutions end-of-life planning facilitator) decided to tackle the problem of de-cluttering a lifetime of posessions head-on.

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The Independent – January 2020

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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My story is included in the Independent’s round-up of readers’ stories of love, adventure, hellos and goodbyes: the years that changed their decade in the 2010s.

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She Magazine – Winter 2019

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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As we enter a new decade I share my tips for making it meaningful, and planning well for the future, in this online magazine for women.

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Time to get rid of euphemisms about death – or not?

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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Recently, an article was published in the Guardian on this subject. But is it really time to get rid of euphemisms about death? Could it be that if we do this, we are throwing the baby out with the bathwater? I was intrigued about this idea, and so asked people…

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The Elephant in the Room

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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  Right now, there is probably an elephant in your room, lurking. It’ll be either deeply hidden behind the furniture, or able to be seen but stuck in the corner of the room, or in some cases, it might be right in the middle of the room, and people pass…

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Marrying Yourself After Becoming a Widow: A Beautiful Ritual to Help You Recover

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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Being left behind takes quite a bit of getting used to, there is no doubt about it. But we can’t bury ourselves in our grief for the rest of our lives. We need to find a way to recover and move on. Some of us choose to remarry, and so did I, although this is a different kind of marriage.

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3 Tips for Making End-Of-Life Talk Easier

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How do we bring death out of the closet and into our lives, without the terror? We need to start talking about it again. Here are some pointers to starting a conversation in a world that is afraid of the one thing that statistics say will happen to 100% of us.

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4 tips to dealing with the effects of missing someone you love

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Missing your Mum or your Dad after they have died is as natural as anything, especially if they have played a large part in your life, such as if you had been caring for them. The grief comes with a big slam, catches you sideways, and tosses and turns you…

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How Do I Keep Funeral Costs Down?

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How do I keep funeral costs down?  The perennial question for many.   Here’s a familiar story: “I don’t want to pay that amount of money for something I don’t want!” I screamed these words to the funeral director who sat opposite me on the sofa two days after my husband…

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What if You Died Today? 3 Quick (and Powerful!) Steps to Ease the Burden on Your Family

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Paradoxically, when we are willing to face the end, we find ourselves able to appreciate being here, now, more fully. In other words, facing the end enables more joy right now; more pleasure and more satisfaction. Find out 3 simple things you can do to get prepared.

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Love-Giver or Love-Taker? 3 Tips for a Healthy Personality Balance

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If you had died yesterday, what would you have lived your life as? A love-giver or a love-taker? Are you willing to change your demeanour toward life and try to be more open to giving?

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What’s Age Got To Do With It?

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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Jane chats to Suzanne Noble chats about her mission to help others to make end of life plans.

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9 Unique Ways to Remember Your Loved Ones

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Walking in a beautiful memorial park in Coventry, England, dedicated to the huge numbers of men killed in both World Wars, I felt the peace in the air. Remembrance is an important part of death, and there are lots of ways you can do it

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How do I create a ritual?

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I didn’t know what to do – only that it was important to me to do something.”Shall we gather about coffee time tomorrow morning? And each of us say something?” I tentatively suggested…

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7 Things Learnt After Cleaning Out of a Home to Settle an Estate

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My Facebook friend Shirley Johnson recently shared her experience of clearing out a family home to settle an estate. Read her valuable experiences and tips for how to avoid unnecessary time and hassle.

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7 ways To Help Maintain Your Independence As You Age

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In my recent survey, the issue of being a burden, or maintaining your independence as you age was the one thing that most people mentioned. Find out what you can do right now to help yourself in the future.

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Dead good help for carers

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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The Forres Gazette showcases Before I Go Solutions’ new social enterprise: Dead Good Cake ‘n Chat.

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How do I let go of unnecessary stuff?

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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How on earth does anyone ever actually manage to let go of the unnecessary stuff that lies around in the house? I’ve got some suggestions for you…

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Is there such a thing as a good death?

By Jane Duncan Rogers
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In a world of increasing uncertainty death is one thing we all know for sure will happen. Is there such a thing as a good death?

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Short Video Series on End of Life Planning

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In a series of five video chats with Sixty And Me founder Margaret Manning, Jane takes a detailed and sympathetic look at the challenges of making a good end of life plan.

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Death ‘Could’ Happen To You Too!

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After my husband died in 2011, I became bound up with the idea that death could happen to me too. If a cancer diagnosis had come out of the blue for him, it could indeed happen to me too.  The next thought, on the heels of that one, was ‘what…

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How To Keep Someone Alive In Your Heart

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Just because someone dies, does not mean you forget them – on the contrary they stay alive in your heart for as long as you want or need them to. That’s what was happening last week when I attended a charity evening run by Moray Business Women, the local networking…

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Overwhelming feelings at Xmas

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Thinking ahead to Christmas Day, or whichever day you celebrate in your faith, overwhelming feelings can easily arise  when you think of the empty chair at the meal table; or no need to buy a present any more; or no present to look forward to receiving. Your heart is a…

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When Your Parents Die, What Happens?

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Someone said to me recently that when your parents die, if they are old, have led a good life, and are ready to go, then you don’t grieve so much. I have recently discovered both the truth and untruth of this, when my Dad died on 25th September, and then…

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International Therapist Magazine, Autumn 2018

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Jane’s article Working With Terminally Ill Clients, First published in International Therapist, the membership magazine of the FHT (www.fht.org.uk). You can read it online here or read the PDF

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Goldie Magazine, Autumn 2018

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Jane’s article in a new glossy magazine for the over 40s Click on the pictures to read the article

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