“Would you rather your body was wrapped in a shroud, or placed in a coffin?”
This was a question I asked folk in my Facebook group
It turned out that it was more or less equally divided, but that many didn’t know hardly anything about a shroud.
So what is it?
It’s simply a piece of material that you wrap a dead body in, and then that piece of material is known as a shroud.
It can be something that is deliberately made out of all sorts of different types of material, usually organic, and bamboo or something like that. But it can also be something as simple as a white sheet cotton from your own home, or maybe a favorite piece of material that you have.
The reason I brought this up in the first place in my Facebook group is because of what happened with my uncle recently, who had died.
He had left strict instructions to me, as his executor, that it was to be as cheap as possible.
I knew that a shroud is likely to cost less than a coffin. So we were looking at direct cremation, which is, when there is no actual funeral, there’s no service, the body just gets taken to the crematorium, and is dealt with there.
I rang the crematorium to ask them would they accept a body and a shroud, and they didn’t know what I was talking about. They didn’t have a clue. In fact, they tried to tell me that it was a legal requirement in the UK that a body had to be in a coffin!
Now, it may be their preference, and it may be what they need to do as Funeral Directors. But it’s not a legal requirement. And that’s really important to know.
So, on the back of this in my facebook group, I thought I would find out what would people prefer? Would you rather be buried in a shroud or cremated in one if that’s possible? Or would you rather the body be placed in a coffin or casket and taken care of that way?
It was amazing the number of comments that we got, and what emerged as a result of that. It really made me realize that I needed to answer this question, what is a shroud? And what does it mean, if you want to have your body taken care of like this.
So here’s a few pointers.
1. The body will be outlined.
You need to know that with a shroud, ie a piece of material just wrapped around you, it is going to show the outline of a body, that’s just the way it is. And depending on the thickness of the material, it will show that outline more than than other types of material. So effectively, a piece of felted material wouldn’t show it very much. But a piece of cotton would. This can be quite shocking. I remember when I first saw somebody who was who had chosen a shroud, and I could see her head clearly defined. And when that has a piece of material over it that is a bit like wow, that’s a bit in your face if you’re not used to it! So that’s something to be aware of.
Because if this is a choice that you’re making, you can let your family and friends know beforehand that that’s what it will look like. And you can help the impact of that of course by choosing a or creating a shroud yourself in a thicker material because that will naturally help.
2. If you want to be cremated, you need to check if your local crematorium will accept a shroud.
Many of them don’t, because they first of all don’t know about it. But secondly, a shrouded body needs to be on a flat plate, and that plate needs to have something at either end, so that when the body is pushed into the incinerator, there is something for the funeral director to push against. Otherwise they will be pushing directly against the body and that’s not okay. This isn’t a problem of course, with a coffin because they’re pushing against a wooden box so to speak.
It may be your wishes will be defined by what your local crematorium says what you can and can’t do.
3. If you want to be buried, check out with them that they will accept a shroud.
That’s because they may not be used to it either. Visit burial ground and familiarize yourself with it and with the staff there as well. Once again, this is only polite really, as although it is much more common to have a shroud buried, many funeral directors and pallbearers will still not be familiar with this method of body disposal. So be kind to them and let them know in advance!
4. Think about the environmental impact of what it is that you want to do.
For some people this of course will be more important than others. Even if you do decide that you want a coffin, you might decide you want one that breaks down more easily than another. And if you want a shroud it will need to be something that is natural that goes in the earth.
So these are things that you really need to think through in advance and will help you make a decision. There’s also lots of different options springing up these days in terms of body disposal, so keep checking in on this site to be up to date. In the meantime, plump for what is best right now, as if you had popped your clogs yesterday, and your body was going to be taken care of imminently.
You’ll be pleased you have made a conscious decision about whether you would want your body wrapped in a shroud piece of material or placed in a coffin, and those you leave behind will also be happy you have made the decision and planned in advance too.
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