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When Your Parents Die, What Happens?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / November 14, 2018 / 13 Comments

Someone said to me recently that when your parents die, if they are old, have led a good life, and are ready to go, then you don’t grieve so much. I have recently discovered both the truth and untruth of this, when my Dad died on 25th September, and then my Mum died just a…

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3 tips on how to talk with someone who is dying

By Jane Duncan Rogers / July 11, 2018 / 4 Comments

Sylvia was becoming more and more frail. It was clear that, though in good spirits, her body was nearing the end of her life. She kept having visits to hospital, and had recently had a fall which had precipitated one of these. But how on earth do we talk with someone who is dying? If…

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3 Things to Do When You’re Afraid Of Your Spouse Dying First

By Jane Duncan Rogers / April 11, 2018 / 16 Comments

It was my greatest fear. Having had no children, the thought of my husband dying first and me being left alone in the world was something I simply couldn’t bear. Even if I had had children, the idea of my best friend, lover, business partner and companion leaving me behind was unbearable. So I didn’t…

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Top Regrets of the Dying – How To Avoid This One

By Jane Duncan Rogers / March 29, 2018 / 0 Comments

One of the top 5 regrets of the dying is ‘I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings’. Given that we never know when our life is going to come to an end, it’s a really good idea to not only express our feelings, but by doing that, keep our relationships up to…

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Being Here Now

By Jane Duncan Rogers / August 30, 2017 / 3 Comments

Last week I thought my Dad was on death’s door after his stroke, as did the doctors. So we have all been surprised that he is still with us, and even eating (this time last week he couldn’t swallow). I’ve been spending time with both him and my Mum but one of the blessings of…

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Feeling Sad and Glad at the Same Time – Really?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / June 14, 2017 / 0 Comments

Someone on Facebook said ‘my dad passed away this morning at 3.30am. I’m so relieved he isn’t in pain anymore. I’m so sad at the same time’. Is it really possible to be feeling two such strong feelings at the same time? Once upon a time I would have said no. Now, especially since my…

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3 Non-Actions To Take When Anxiety, Grief and Not-Knowing Are Your Bed Partners

By Jane Duncan Rogers / July 8, 2016 / 11 Comments

Fear gripped me, like a vice around my guts.  I treaded water in the swimming pool in which I had arrived for an early morning dip, before the heat of the day became too much. My friend had called from the terrace rooftop of the villa in which I was staying in Italy, on holiday.…

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Passwords – Keep Private or Share?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / May 25, 2016 / 0 Comments

In the UK’s Saturday Guardian, Adam Golightly writes an anonymous column (Widower of the Parish) recounting his challenges each week as a new widower and father to two children, since his wife Helen died in early April. This week, he faced another apparently small, but in experience huge, problem. The one of passwords. In my…

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3 Ways to Cope When Grieving

By Jane Duncan Rogers / October 14, 2015 / 2 Comments

No 1: Open Your Doors to All Feelings Imagine you are a house. Grief (in the form of fear, anger, guilt, sorrow, sadness, despair, you name it) comes knocking at the front door. The instinct is to lock the door and block up the windows to keep it out. But the feelings are so overwhelming…

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3 Tips on How to Cope With Grief

By Jane Duncan Rogers / October 14, 2015 / 0 Comments

This article, written by me, is published in the November 2015 edition of Natural Health magazine (UK only)     No 1: Open Your Doors to All Feelings Imagine you are a house. Grief (in the form of fear, anger, guilt, sorrow, sadness, despair, you name it) comes knocking at the front door. The instinct is…

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