A reason for living when someone close has died

A reason for living when someone close has died

By Jane Duncan Rogers / January 26, 2022 /

A reason for living, when someone close has died is demonstrated perfectly with Ricky Gervais. He plays Tony in ‘After Life‘ currently on Netflix. He struggles to come to terms with the death of his wife. Here are my observations and the lessons we can take from this series. Why Ricky Gervais, his dog and…

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What does a white feather mean?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / December 6, 2020 /

Discover how the lightness of a feather (or three) helped Jane move through the gravity of grief.

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Time to get rid of euphemisms about death – or not?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / December 11, 2019 /

Recently, an article was published in the Guardian on this subject. But is it really time to get rid of euphemisms about death? Could it be that if we do this, we are throwing the baby out with the bathwater? I was intrigued about this idea, and so asked people in a few Facebook groups…

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4 tips to dealing with the effects of missing someone you love

By Jane Duncan Rogers / November 19, 2019 /

Missing your Mum or your Dad after they have died is as natural as anything, especially if they have played a large part in your life, such as if you had been caring for them. The grief comes with a big slam, catches you sideways, and tosses and turns you all over the place. A…

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When Your Parents Die, What Happens?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / November 14, 2018 /

Someone said to me recently that when your parents die, if they are old, have led a good life, and are ready to go, then you don’t grieve so much. I have recently discovered both the truth and untruth of this, when my Dad died on 25th September, and then my Mum died just a…

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How To Answer the Big Questions of Death When You Are Alive

By Jane Duncan Rogers / December 5, 2017 /

How to Answer the Big Questions of Death When Still Alive is the name of the latest podcast from a wonderful site called Death Goes Digital. I was interviewed by the charming founder of Death Goes Digital, Peter Billingham, last week, and we had a most engaging conversation, including what music I’d have playing at…

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Afraid Of Your Spouse Dying First? Open this…

By Jane Duncan Rogers / June 28, 2017 /

The idea of my husband, best friend, lover, business partner and companion leaving me behind was unbearable. It was my greatest fear. Having had no children, the thought of him dying first and me being left alone in the world was something I simply couldn’t bear. So I didn’t think about it – or when…

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Feeling Sad and Glad at the Same Time – Really?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / June 14, 2017 /

Someone on Facebook said ‘my dad passed away this morning at 3.30am. I’m so relieved he isn’t in pain anymore. I’m so sad at the same time’. Is it really possible to be feeling two such strong feelings at the same time? Once upon a time I would have said no. Now, especially since my…

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How To Be When Someone You Know Dies

By Jane Duncan Rogers / May 16, 2017 /

It’s difficult, let’s face it. Someone you know has died. Relatives whom you may or may not know will be grieving. You maybe are grieving, too. How on earth do you acknowledge this?  Here’s an excerpt from my book Gifted By Grief: A True Story of Cancer, Loss and Rebirth, where I reflect on the…

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What’s Grief Got to Do With Love? (Different From What You Might Think)

By Jane Duncan Rogers / January 31, 2017 /

What’s grief got to do with love? Well, it’s obvious isn’t it?  For instance, there is a very well-known saying from Queen Elizabeth II: “Grief is the price we pay for love.” Because we do grieve much more over those we love, than those we either didn’t know so well, or didn’t know at all.…

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