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3 Things to Do When You’re Afraid Of Your Spouse Dying First

By Jane Duncan Rogers / April 11, 2018 / 16 Comments

It was my greatest fear. Having had no children, the thought of my husband dying first and me being left alone in the world was something I simply couldn’t bear. Even if I had had children, the idea of my best friend, lover, business partner and companion leaving me behind was unbearable. So I didn’t…

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Arguably the Best Valentine’s Present You Can Give A Loved One!

By Jane Duncan Rogers / February 7, 2017 / 0 Comments

The best Valentine present? Really?  Well, I’m sure you know someone, or know of someone, who’s had an administrative nightmare after a family member has died, all because they didn’t sort their affairs out before they popped their clogs. A colleague of mine, Heather, had that experience when her Dad died suddenly. It took her three…

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What’s Grief Got to Do With Love? (Different From What You Might Think)

By Jane Duncan Rogers / January 31, 2017 / 2 Comments

What’s grief got to do with love? Well, it’s obvious isn’t it?  For instance, there is a very well-known saying from Queen Elizabeth II: “Grief is the price we pay for love.” Because we do grieve much more over those we love, than those we either didn’t know so well, or didn’t know at all.…

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The Time is Now! What To Do To Be Fully Alive

By Jane Duncan Rogers / December 13, 2016 / 0 Comments

This short piece ‘The Time Is Now’ was written by my friend Bob German of  Young At Any Age. When he sent it to me I just wanted to share it.  Full stop. It is so wise. All the statements are summed up in the last one. So how can you choose love over this holiday…

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Love, and go on

By Jane Duncan Rogers / June 16, 2015 / 0 Comments

I read this on a Facebook post a while ago; I’ve seen it before but it’s great to be reminded of this wisdom. It’s for a woman who has lost her male partner, but obviously you can amend it to read whatever is appropriate for you in your situation. You can shed tears that he…

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Grief never ends…?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / June 7, 2015 / 0 Comments

  Grief never ends is a very common belief, but it’s not true. Grief changes, because when you grieve a loss you are on a journey, whether you like it or not. A journey is about travelling, learning, growing; making mistakes, discovering and exploring. During this you will be changing; you can’t help it. So ditch…

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Has Someone You Know Been Diagnosed with Cancer?

By Jane Duncan Rogers / February 19, 2015 / 0 Comments

When you hear the word ‘cancer’ associated with someone close to you, it’s hard. The shock, even if you suspected it, can cause you to be clumsy with your communication. Disbelief is likely to stun you into silence. You may very well feel helpless. So what do you say?  How can you best help them? …

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Why the commonest things said to you about grief are actually the worst.

By Jane Duncan Rogers / February 4, 2015 / 0 Comments

What is it that everyone says to you? You’ll never get over it It’ll just take time These two things were said to me, and I’ve discovered, said to others too. They’re not helpful though, because they’re not true. Here’s why: ‘You’ll never get over it’ – death of a loved one is not something you…

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